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Are you struggling with indecision?
I get it. It’s hard to pick an outfit for a party or make decisions about your future career path when you’re feeling overwhelmed with anxiety! That sounds like something I would totally understand because this exact same thing happened last week- my choice was saree, but then again… A problem occurs when we can’t decide what article of clothing should go best on our bodies; does one prefer wearing dresses at all times? How do these questions even come up in conversation?! These struggles may seamlessness happen more often than people think.
Even in the case of big decision situations, you can’t seem to make up your mind. You spend hours going back and forth, trying to decide what’s the right thing to do. But in the end, you still can’t make a decision. And that feeling of indecision can be incredibly frustrating. So how do you battle it? How do you overcome that paralyzing fear of making the wrong choice?
Struggling with indecision is just no fun.
Marcus Tullius Cicero said, “More is lost by indecision than wrong decision. Indecision is the thief of opportunity. It will steal you blind.”
While the reasons for being indecisive are numerous, and some might be logical, the good news is that making decisions is a skill, and like any skill, anyone can learn it.
In this blog, we shall discuss how indecision affects your life and discuss ways you can effectively battle indecision and become more decisive.
The need for decision-making has been recognized as a universal human experience. Research into understanding indecision shows that it carries with it universally adverse effects on individuals, ranging from procrastination and anxiety to lower levels of productivity or even job loss because they were unable to make decisions quickly enough within their work environment.
According to a study by the Netherlands Journal of Psychology, “Indecisiveness is a widespread phenomenon. It is capable of limiting all aspects of your life, from your romance to your career.”
Concerning the causes of indecision, numerous studies on the psychology of indecision have shown that there are diverse causes of indecision. These causes are unique for every individual, and the cause of your indecisiveness isn’t the same for someone else.
Multiple studies on the psychology of indecision have shown that there are diverse causes for an individual’s tendency to be unsure. These causes are unique for every individual, and the cause of your indecisiveness isn’t the same for someone else.
We all have experience making decisions that take us time to think through and come up with an answer. That’s why it can be frustrating when we don’t immediately know what the best course of action is- especially if your business depends on fast decision-making! There are three common reasons that determine whether or not you’re able quickly to make sound decisions; they include:
- Trying to please people. This is making a decision that will please others in hopes that they will like you more. When you always make decisions to please other people, you lose the ability to make decisions that are your own.
- Losing faith in yourself. This is common after a series of bad or wrong decisions leaves you hurt or disappointed. Most people lose faith in their own judgment and become indecisive after that.
- Too many choices. It is common to be indecisive when you are presented with too many options. An example is making a choice from a menu. You are presented with dozens of options, and that makes it harder to make up your mind.
Would there be any benefits of Indecision?
While indecision can impact our lives negatively, indecision isn’t always a bad thing. Indecision makes you hesitate and gives you more time to consider the situations and the options available critically. You are provided with more time to gather and weigh the facts and make a better-informed choice.
Experiencing indecisiveness when making a life-changing choice is common and only shows that whatever decision you are trying to make really matters to you. It is, however, important to know when you are taking time to weigh your choices and when you are forever stuck in the loop of indecisiveness.
6 steps to help in eliminating indecision
However, indecision can still be considered the enemy of progress. It breeds doubt and procrastination, two inescapably destructive forces. Indecision leads us to ask too many questions and seek too many opinions, instead of trusting our own instincts and expertise. It makes us second-guess ourselves, and wonder if we’re really cut out for the task at hand. Eliminating indecision from your life will lead to greater clarity, confidence, and ultimately, success.
So, we all have those days. The best way to get yourself out of a scrape is by following the steps below!
Don’t leave life to Chance, make decisions that support you
More than likely each of us is in search of purpose at some point or some clarity as to what this short life on earth is about. There are so many different paths to take in life. For some of us, it is entirely too overwhelming to choose just one. You must start somewhere though. You must start with some intention to get what you want and need out of life because indecisiveness kills creativity. You will inevitably have to make decisions along the way, many of them difficult.
Once you realize the direction you are heading or want to head, these decisions become much easier to make clear. It’s not a good feeling to feel as though you are flailing about with no real intention or purpose.
Living with Intent
The term “purpose” could be a bit overused in society today. There is this utopian view of finding your purpose in life and living happily ever after once you’ve got your purpose figured out. It is a bit simplistic.
Again, hoping and thinking positively that good things will come to you is a bit naïve and quite frankly leaves what happens to chance. There is nothing inherently wrong with choosing to be optimistic and laid-back, it just shouldn’t be a method used in isolation.
Lot of work, experiences and tough decisions are involved in finding a purpose. After that, new obstacles will be faced and overcome. Once you have decided what you want, how will you get it? This requires making intentional decisions along the way.
Drive out the Fear
Being unable to make a decision could be a possibility of being scared of something. To eliminate this fear, take a paper and write down why you are afraid. Once that is done, acknowledge the repercussions of such fear coming to pass. If this fear materializes, how will you cope? What is the possibility of this happening? Weigh this against the fear of all the options you are battling with.
A good example of this is choosing to take a new job. Maybe the pay of the new job is lower than what you currently earn, but there is a higher growth rate. There might be a valid fear of reduced income for a while.
Carefully consider how your life will be affected by this decreased income and how you can handle it. Once this is done, it’s much easier to eliminate the fear and make the best decision.
Believe in your Emotions
If you are constantly indecisive, the reason is that you do not trust your guts and need to stop over-analyzing. While there is a place for considering your options when making a serious decision, trusting your gut is a surefire way to develop intuitions that helps you make decisions easily.
Set a Time limit to take a decision
Create a list that reminds you of the times when your decisions turned out to be just right.
Keep a journal where you daily input details on how you feel as it relates to making decisions. This helps you tap into intuitive and reflective capacities that are being ignored.
Start practicing on small things
According to research on Education Resources Information Center, decisiveness is a skill. That is great because it means that it can be learned and mastered like every other skill. While there is no universal step to eliminate indecisiveness, you can only know what works for you through constant practice and experimentation.
Begin by making a series of small decisions every day. You can set a target of 10 – 15 decisions per day. Little decisions like what to eat, the route to take, an inexpensive purchase, and other small decisions that lack any serious consequences.
As you make these decisions daily, you are practicing, growing in confidence, and gaining an ability that would come in handy when the time to make serious life-changing decisions comes.
The Intentional Decisions Model
An intention consists of a decision maker’s aim to bring about one particular state (usually within a given time frame). The Intentional Decisions Model may serve as a tool to visualize and monitor the decisions you are making. Ideally, the choices you make cumulatively add up to leading a fulfilling life.
That means that each choice can make a difference and should be backed by intention. It is a framework of the components of being either a) a creator of your life or b) a victim of your life. The basics of this model are:
1. Act proactively rather than reactively.
Basically, plan ahead instead of waiting for things to happen.
2. Choose empathy for others versus sympathy for yourself.
Put yourself in others’ shoes to truly understand situations rather than focusing on yourself and engage in self-pity.
3. Be engaged over simply showing up.
Attendance in life is one thing but being actively engaged is what gives meaning to the things happening around us.
We don’t need to be happy all the time as much as we need to be in creator mode as much of the time as possible. While happiness is a form of success, it is simply not always achievable. We cannot always control situations that happen that may make us unhappy, but we can control how we react and the decisions we make thereafter.
It is good to have strategies in place that set positive habits toward leading a life with intent. That way, if you feel yourself slipping into victim mode, seek your strategy in place to turn that way of thinking around and shift back toward creator mode.
Having clear and attainable goals in life is not only healthy but also necessary. Goal setting is a separate process but making intentional decisions that support your goals is integral to achieving what you want out of life.
To conclude, do not become indecisive about the steps to battle indecision! Decide to try out these steps today, and before long, you’ll find yourself handling even the big decisions easier.
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